“As someone who does not have children and will not date someone who does, it’s children.” Their children come first, and you will always come second. Anything becomes an arduous chore when you have to deal with another adult throughout the relationship. Pretty much everyone on the market is coming from a long string of failed relationships, and in many cases, they’re the reason for that, but you often don’t find out until you’ve been dating for a while because they’ve gotten really good at concealing whatever the reason is.”
“The most difficult aspect of dating in my 30s is that I’m a lot more of a homebody than I was as a young adult.” So, finding a date is difficult when I’d rather read a book at home, and finding someone else who would rather remain at home, cook a lovely supper, and read a book on a Friday night is difficult.
“Everyone’s life is full of jobs, sports, friends, hobbies, and housework. They are available for a 30-minute conversation after 7 p.m., but not on Tuesdays or Fridays. They’ll be out of town this weekend, and an old high school acquaintance will stay with them the next weekend. They go on vacation the following weekend. They get up two hours before you and go to bed three hours before you. Aside from that, they want a long-term, committed relationship. Loneliness stinks since you can’t solve it on your own.
“Dates begin to resemble job interviews.” People around you usually have their sh*t together. If you’ve become accustomed to being single, entering a relationship feels like a significant sacrifice (time, money, hobbies…). People make decisions faster not only because they know what they want, but also because the risks are bigger.
“It’s no longer all fun and games.” People are feeling rushed or behind schedule. First dates frequently include questions such as: are we compatible, do you want children, are you alright with my children, are you ready for a serious relationship, do you make enough money, do you own a home, politics, and religion? I don’t have time to play games with you if we aren’t a good match because I’m in my 30s and should be married and having children. Light-hearted dating is becoming less common.
“You have narrowed your preferences a LOT more than you did in your 20s, so finding a compatible partner is more difficult.” Especially if you despise children. I didn’t really start dating until I was in my 30s, and the most difficult part for me was that all of the guys I’ve dated had long-term relationships and are now mostly looking for flings.” I felt like I was left with leftovers after missing out on the excellent stuff.
“I’m looking for someone.” You must be completely honest about your tastes or you will not find anyone. Even with comparable interests, it’s difficult to find someone who agrees on all of politics, ethics, children, and morals. Which is probably why we’re both single. Online dating stinks and all of my friends are married, dead, or single dads.” So, for the most part, I’m on my own.